""Let u realize that nothing in life has any meaning except the meaning we give to it. Will you give your past a meaning filled with hatredness, recrimination, vendetta, persecution,, or will you realize that it’s what made you who you are today? Why do we take solace in engaging in evil acts against ourselves when we are capable of taking our Destiny in our hands through meditation, positive thinkings, and unalloyed sense of commitment towards restoring the lost glory of our ancient town ? Our past can be a source of inner strength and deep belief in ourselves, if we choose to give it a positive meaning.
Nothing affects the quality of our lives and our ability to control our destiny more deeply than our relationships.
They are a window into our values and beliefs, including our beliefs about ourselves.
They are the source of life’s greatest pleasure and life’s greatest pain.
They can either propel us towards our goals or keep us stagnant"".
By Bode Durojaiye.
Destiny, fate, karma, serendipity – whatever you call it, the idea that life is determined by powers beyond our control is as old as time.
It appears in Greek mythology, ancient Chinese storytelling and in every culture around the world.
But what if destiny wasn’t real? What if you could control your destiny?
Believing that you control your own destiny means you have recognized your internal locus of control.
It means you take responsibility for your thoughts and actions and their outcomes. By thinking this way, you can become unstoppable.
Accepting reality doesn’t mean you just sit back and forget about how to control your destiny. It means that you take ownership of what you can change and forget about things you can’t.
You can’t control what others do or think. You can’t control the market. The only thing you can change is your own mindset.
To do that, we must question the story we tell yourself – and transform it into one that can reform is and transform our town .
Limiting beliefs – the negative things we tell ourselves about the way we are and the way our town is – only hold us back from fully controlling our destiny.
Is this Oyo town of our dream? Is this how the headquarters of Yoruba land should be in terms of development?
Why do we take solace in engaging in evil acts among ourselves when we are capable of taking our Destiny in our hands through meditation, brainstorming , conscientiousness and unalloyed sense of commitment towards restoring the lost glory of the ancient town . .
Our past is not our future – unless we live there. To control our own destiny, we must forgive those who have hurt us and let go of the past.
Let us realize that nothing in life has any meaning except the meaning we give to it. Will you give your past a meaning filled with hurt and pain, or will you realize that it’s what made you who you are today?
Our past can be a source of inner strength and deep belief in ourselves, if we choose to give it a positive meaning.
Nothing affects the quality of our lives and our ability to control our destiny more deeply than our relationships.
They are a window into our values and beliefs, including our beliefs about ourselves.
They are the source of life’s greatest pleasure and life’s greatest pain. And they can either propel us towards our goals or keep us stagnant.
Sometimes we must cut ties with unhealthy relationships that no longer serve us.
This is one of the hardest parts of learning how to control our destiny, but we can’t fly when we are weighed down.
What is more, our relationships also provide clues about our driving force – the ultimate reason we do the things we do.
We’re all driven by Six Human Needs: certainty, significance, variety, love/connection, growth and contribution.
We need all of these things at a certain level, but we each have one top need that drives us more than others.
By looking at our lives in this context, we will be able to more successfully control our destiny, because we will recognize and fulfill our needs in a positive ways
To be continued......
